Embarrassment Is the Price of Entry

Every single one of you has something to offer.

Whether it’s skills, knowledge, or experience—
you have value to give to others.

You learned things the hard way.
You solved tiny problems that now feel “normal” to you.
You carry stories that could save someone time, money, or pain.

So why don’t most people share?

Fear.

The fear of being judged.
The fear of looking silly.
The fear that no one will read.

Here’s the part we miss:

Embarrassment is the price of entry.
You pay it once. Then the door opens.

We think our ideas are “ours.”
But they aren’t only ours.
They came from teachers, teammates, books, late nights, bad calls, and lucky breaks.

You are a link in a long chain.
If you stop the chain, value dies in your hands.

Silence feels safe.
But silence withholds help.
It keeps someone stuck one day longer than they need to be.

A founder told me, “What will others think of me?”
Valid question.
But there’s a better one: “Who could this help if I share it?”

The people you follow took that bet.
Imagine they never posted.
No threads. No podcasts. No talks.
The world shrinks.
Your path gets darker.

Creating is not ego.
It’s service.

It says:
“I went first.
Here’s what I tried.
Here’s what worked.
Here’s what hurt.
Take what helps.”

“Courage” isn’t the lack of fear.
It’s moving while you feel it.

“Clarity” doesn’t come before you share.
It comes because you share.

“Perfection” is just a mask for hiding.
Ship the lesson, not the mask.

A simple way to start this week

1) One lesson.
Write three lines: what happened, what you learned, how they can use it.

2) One mistake.
Name it. Name the fix. Name the safeguard so it won’t happen again.

3) One small tip.
Something that saves 10 minutes. Show the exact steps.

Short. Honest. Useful.

Post that. Then do it again next week.

A tiny philosophy of sharing

• What is not given is lost.
  If it stays in your head, it helps no one.

• The work teaches you what to say.
  Publishing is how you think in public.

• Attention follows service.
  Help first. The rest comes later.

• Meaning beats metrics.
  A single thank-you note is worth more than a thousand empty likes.

My tools to beat the fear

The 60-Minute Share

• 20 min: list 10 lessons you’ve learned this year.

• 20 min: pick one and write it as a short story.

• 20 min: edit for clarity. Cut fluff. Post.

The Embarrassment Budget
Decide: “I’m willing to feel silly 5 times this month.”
Spend the budget on posts, videos, or threads.
You’ll run out of embarrassment before you run out of ideas.

The Audience of One
Write to one person who needs this today.
Picture their face. Use their name in your draft.
Remove it before posting, but keep the tone.

Here are simple lines you can start with today:

• “I used to think ___. Then ___ happened. Now I ___.”

• “I wasted 6 months on ___. Here’s the 10-minute version so you don’t.”

• “If I had to start over tomorrow, I’d do these 3 things differently: ___, ___, ___.”

You don’t need to be loud.
You need to be clear.

You don’t need to be perfect.
You need to be useful.

Your value grows when you give it away.
And the fear? It won’t leave first.

You move first.

Love,
Bea